I Used to be a Writer…

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I used to be a writer. When I was four years old, my parents taught me how to read and write my name and address. This was so I could get my library card. The world opened up to me. I was going every day. They had to stay there with me…for hours, until I got my fill…and then have me check out books for third graders. Only then, could I have books that I did not need to return tomorrow. The hours? So I could absorb as many of the books for those my age as possible. On drives, I remember reading all of the stop signs, and lights, and fast food signs…everything.

Within a few years, I begged for a typewriter (this was the late 80s/early 90s), and I GOT ONE! It was amazing. I was SOOOO excited. I wrote ALL OF THE TIME. Not in all caps, like that. I would have chucked those pages. This is for emphasis. I loved it so, though.

I mainly wrote short stories. Even through junior high I was writing, short plays, that would occupy my friends, mainly. In high school? Abysmal poetry was my jam. I thought that if it actually stuck to the rules that it was too mainstream, so a lot of it was complete nonsense.

As an adult, the pressures of life, and my more limited imagination led to this, my blog. I mean, not ONLY this. I wrote at other places on the web as well, but rarely fiction. That marked a bit of a change for me. I loved sharing everything that I was enamored with with the world. It was amazing. It was the grown up version of the e-zine that I had published in high school, only way better.

However, this has change been the biggest. During the last three years I have rarely written at all. Right now I feel the urge to write, and what am I talking about? Writing. No offense to the lovely authors that I adore, but this is often an exercise in how to deal with procrastination and/or writer’s block.

Do nonfiction writers/bloggers get writer’s block? I would have to say yes. Nearly two months ago, I had a huge revelation, but I cannot blame that solely for this. I mean this had been going on for a while.

I do not know my current end game. I only know that this blog will not fully end, not any time soon. I pay to keep it up…every month. I do this for a reason, even if I do not fully know why yet.

STAY TUNED…

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That Woman Behind You Is Better Than You, No Not That One, Look Harder

I try my best to avoid reading the type of blog post that I am going to describe to you as best I can, the trouble is that I’ll be reading something by someone I admire and get directed to one of these things. Then I’ll read half of it before I realize what it is…

“Did you notice that yesterday over there at shesbetter.corm Glinda stated that Geeneric Snack will poison everyone you know. I think that this is an important subject. The history of Geeneric Snack is overonWikipedia.

Do you eat it? Did you know that Evil Corp makes it? Did you know that eating it is a direct representation of who you are as a person?

Personally I only ate them once on a dare to join an exclusive country club to meet my husband but I’d like to know if all of you could leave a comment below telling me why you do or do not eat them and why that makes you better than the other side.

Thanks. Hurry…I just know that this will be a hotly debated topic all over the interweb…”

Obviously that was a bunch of gibberish that I just whipped up. I could go read a random sampling of blogs or other types of blog structured sites right this minute and link them back here, thereby giving you a random sampling of this type of semi-cloaked hatred directed at other women…BUT I WON’T.

Despite the way that everything seems to be set up (men and women at war with each other, women and women at war with each other), I like other women. I think that we should encourage each other. I read tons of writing by women that I find funny and insightful.

I see these types of posts often and find them quite disturbing. They may start out with any topic, it could be more superficial, like a beauty secret or something more complex, such as a political issue. It would not be unusual for it to fall into a vast gray area of topics somewhere in the middle. A post of this nature will usually quickly devolve from a woman stating the facts and then her opinions into a post where she turns it around on the reader asking them to choose a side. Then ladies flock to the comments section to argue about why something (quite possibly incredibly arbitrary) makes them in some way better than another woman. Sometimes she will even pick a side on the issue (it could be an issue that she just thought of and has no long standing opinions on) and state that if you are on the other side that you are in some way a moron (or maybe ugly, it would depend on the topic).

I’m not trying to tell women not to have a voice, quite the opposite. I just wish that they didn’t feel the need to turn every topic into some weird, creepy Mean Girls situation that involves them bringing other women down by placing those women’s hands on each other’s necks.

Women In Blogging: Become who you really are

BY Collage

Despite the fact that I’m not that old (27 at the end of the month) I’ve seen a lot of change on the internet. My household got the net when I was in Jr. High. I was the first child in my school who used it. Some of the well off kids’ parents had it but they wouldn’t let them use their expensive computers. Back then the net was more information based instead of socially based. Although I always had a hard time finding any factoid I needed, funny considering what I do now. Initially I (naively) thought that chat rooms would be a cool way of talking to people all over the world. Turns out they were mainly for picking people up.

So I contributed to a forum or two and some newsgroups. This was all well and good but it was very plain to see that women were often under represented, then insulted when they spoke up. In a forum of malcontents I hung out in men habitually bitched about their love lives and in a Seinfeld sort of way always had “good reasons” for it. If a woman spoke up and said the same thing the men turned on her saying “She had it easy and should be able to get any guy she wanted easily if she wasn’t “fat and/or ugly”. And what were we women doing hanging around here anyway when we should be off tanning, cleaning or cooking?

I think this is why I’ve gotten into reading a number fashion blogs lately. I enjoy the blogs featuring women who feel like it lets them express themselves in a way that they weren’t able to before. A lot of them preface their site with “I know I’m fat, ugly, short, poor, ____ (insert imagined imperfection here)” but then they post what they want anyway. (FYI: I’m guilty of this too). That might sound harsh but those are the ones I prefer. The girls who are more in the vein of “Now I’m off to party with a billionaire” don’t forge a real connection. I know that there are other types of female run blogs but they don’t speak to me as I don’t cook or have children.

On the surface it seems silly to be inspired by someone modeling their shoes until you think about it.


TRUE TO YOURSELF QUOTES

“It takes courage to grow up and become who you really are.”- E.E. Cummings

“Most people are other people. Their thoughts are someone else’s opinions, their lives a mimicry, their passions a quotation.”-Oscar Wilde

“He who trims himself to suit everyone will soon whittle himself away.”-Raymond Hull

“Always be a first-rate version of yourself, instead of a second-rate version of somebody else.”-Judy Garland

“Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don’t matter and those who matter don’t mind.”-Dr. Seuss

“A friend is someone who gives you total freedom to be yourself.”-Jim Morrison

“I think in art, but especially in films, people are trying to confirm their own existences.”-Jim Morrison

“I think of life itself now as a wonderful play that I’ve written for myself, and so my purpose is to have the utmost fun playing my part.”-Shirley MacLaine

“If you want to know all about Andy Warhol, just look at the surface of my paintings and films and me, and there I am. There’s nothing behind it.”-Andy Warhol

“They always say time changes things, but you actually have to change them yourself.”-Andy Warhol

Links à la Mode (for week of April 29, 2010)

links a la mode

When Fashion Gets Ethical

Edited by Retrochick

The ethics of Fashion can be a blurry area. With so much to think about when we buy, from construction to provenance, how can we pick our way through such a minefield of issues and emerge with our ethics intact?

We all have a duty as consumers to be as informed as possible about the purchases we make, and this weeks Links à la Mode can help. Amongst this weeks picks Fashion in My Eyes talks about locally made fashion, Style Eyes discusses Organic Cotton, Hello Beauty buys some recycled sneakers, Oranges and Apples sorts the wheat from the chaff in second hand clothing and Shrimp Salad Circus brings you natural make up.

Once your done being educated we also have a good smattering of fashion frivolity to be getting on with too, and there’s even more on the original forum thread!

Links à la Mode : April 29

  • Avant Garb – Dedicated Follower Fashion grills Sandra Mendoza-Daly of Debutante Clothing
  • Betsey J – Why do we feel it’s necessary to financially compete with our fellow bloggers? Is it really worth it?
  • Dramatis Personae – Interview with Indie Designer Ureshii– fabulous made-to-fit clothes for the modern gal!
  • fashion in my eyes – Made in… Buying for the label
  • Glossary – Fashion 101: Back to Basics
  • hello beauty! – my new eco-sneakers, which are basically a jumble of hemp, recycled plastic bottles and car tires…
  • House in Tillford – Fur isn’t fashion! My rantings about fur
  • Idiosyncratic Style – Swoon-worthy Spring runway trends
  • Independent Fashion Bloggers – How to Contribute Articles to a Blog or Magazine
  • La Moda Dubai – Photoshop isn’t the only to manipulate a photo
  • Le Quaintrelle – Outfits inspired by Michael Kors Resort 2010 collection with pieces out of my own closet.
  • Mystery Creature – Look great for a sleek and sophisticated summer wedding with these 1930’s inspired wedding dresses
  • Oranges and Apples – Taste and secondhand clothing: sorting the wheat from the chaff
  • Out Of Order – Interview with Marisa of New Dress a Day
  • Retro Chick – The Lost Art of Dressing Up
  • Return to Sender – Little black dresses for the FATshionista.
  • Ship-shape and Bristol Fashion – These days knock-off trends are common place but is cheap fashion still a taboo?
  • Shoe A Day – How does fashion fit into Earth Day?
  • Shrimp Salad Circus – Get high-fashion makeup looks for less with all-natural, afforadable handmade mineral versions!
  • Style Eyes Fashion Blog – Organic clothing – should I bother?
  • Style Symmetry – 5 Days of Symmetry Challenge ~ Wear a 100% Vintage Outfit
  • The Coveted – Why Say Never? Chambray Jumpsuit & Clogs