Is It Fear of Missing Out or General Disregard?

When it comes to plans and how you treat people, do you think that all of this comes down to a generalized  fear of missing out (particularly the social media saturated world that we are living in) or is it just general disregard?

Another heavy issue?

Now, I was born in the 80s and raised in the 90s. I’m a true 80s baby/90s child/teen. Unlike those born in the 90s who glom on to all of our pop culture. We were there. We lived it. And we lived without…just some general things. As a certain type of family, we didn’t even have a home phone when I was a very young child (at least 5 and under). I know others did. That’s not what I’m speaking of. I’m speaking of how children now seem to come out of the womb with an ipad attached to their hands, knowing more about apps than I’ll ever know about appetizers.

Any who, the way that the younger generation, and even those closer to my age currently make plans seems a bit bs to me lately. I mean, growing up, things weren’t set in stone. Yes, I’m on the autism spectrum, yes this influences the fact that I have a thing for plans, but I can bend, a bit. However, when we were younger it was definitely a “thing” to make plans. You got on a landline or a payphone and hoped the other person was home or that their parents or younger brother (yeah, right!) would take down a message letting them know that you called and wanted to hangout.

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Now a days, it’s more like a series of messages sent through some type of satellite, via either text or social networking that is basically gouging if you are fun/cool/better than the other person’s established plans or maybe if they can fit you into those plans. I get spontaneity. I don’t expect people to drop everything for me. However, if you’ve contacted everyone you are thinking of hanging with and get a no or a maybe and then start hanging with me, well, that seems like a sign that I’m now your friend that you are hanging with. Maybe I’m wrong, who knows.

I must say that I love Asis Ansari’s bit on this though. So, lately, I try to make plans further in advance, if I actually want them to stick. If they are random, I expect nothing. But if someone is being random, don’t abandon those who picked up the slack. I’m fine with being alone, but not after you drag me into your drama. That’s all I’m saying.

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DCP: NYE, friends? & life

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So basically New Year’s Eve always sucks. However, eventually, after this video, I called people who actually care about me. Sometimes you gotta hit up your town back home to find those who care. I mean, as much as I want to make friends here, it’s not like I’m going to know them forever anyway, so I guess it’s not that big of a deal.

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Meeting Elvira

Last weekend I attended the Steel City Con in Monroeville, PA again. Yes, I’ve gone quite often in the last few years since it’s fairly close to where I live (about an hour away). I went to meet Elvira (Cassandra Peterson). I’ve been a fan of hers for as long as I can remember. In fact I dressed as her for Halloween in 2005. Even buying my costume was hilarious. My social anxiety was actually worse then so after I found the dress a worker came up to ask if I needed anything and I blurted “A WIG” overly loud. “It’s a wig” emergency!” he declared and he, my sister and myself all had a good laugh. Obviously my costume was a big hit at our party as well because, hey, boobs!

Anyway, back on track, we arrived around the time that she was supposed to show but they were still getting her table ready. Plus the line was forming and yes, it was very large, especially for this small con. So my fiance and I decided to check out the merchandise before getting into line. I (rightly) assumed that we’d be tired after waiting and want to go pretty soon. Plus we had just been sitting in the car for a while so we needed to walk around.

I often see many great cosplayers at the Monroeville Convention Center. However this time while there were a ton of attendees many of the cosplayers weren’t super impressive. I really only feel like accosting strangers who look fantastic so I just got a photo with a guy who had great Darth Maul makeup.

I picked up a few neat presents while we were checking out the dealers. Some of the sellers that I purchased from were the talented RAK and Candy Box Crafts. My man bought the cool necklace that he’s wearing above as well.

Eventually we decided that we better get in Elvira’s line. The people in the line were quite varied. Old, young, conservatively dressed or sporting a metal or goth look. I wore my Coquette capris and a cleavage boosting top with my trusty boots. Yes, being December and all I’m starting to think that I really need to buy the full leggings as well.

It took somewhere from 40 minutes to an hour to reach the table. Some of the people in the line were pretty funny so listening to their convos was pretty interesting. Plus we were stuck by one seller in particular for a while who had some affordable toys. I’m glad that we were staring at his table for a while because they had the original Monopoly which I’ve wanted forever. My man bought it for me as an Xmas present, aw.

As we got closer we were able to watch Cassandra Peterson in action. She’s just as fun as in the movies. She was very informative and funny. We found out that she will be filming another Elvira movie, Movie Macabre soon. Apparently it was a short lived TV series that I somehow missed. You can check it out on YouTube here. She made some great quips like when someone asked her how much an autographed photo was and she said “a million dollars”. She was also holding up her new calendar and pitching it like she was in an infomercial. It was really cute. She did her classic shocked expression pose for lots of attendees which was very neat. Her trainer/assistant was very nice and super buff. She even had a bunch of guys requesting funny poses with her. I thought that the merchandise that Elvira had for sale was great. I would have picked up one or two things in addition to my signed photo if I’d had more money. I really liked the 45 with the Movie Macabre theme song on it and the calendar. My fiance wished he had some extra dough to pick up one of her Zippo lighters. She said that the song was on a record because the person who had worked on it likes them. I later found out, via her site, that Jack White produced it, so cool!

When we got our turn to meet her I was such a mess. When I’m a huge fan of someone I literally shake. So yes I was shaking when her assistant took the photo above, I’m surprised that it came out so well. Elvira quipped “I’m above your head” to my fiance when we showed it to her because of the large banner of her in the background. He got a real kick out of that. At first I lamely said “We love you. You’re so beautiful.”, yes full fangirl mode. Then I told her that I had introduced my fiance to her movies. When I found out that she was attending the con we watched Haunted Hills and her original film. Of course he thought that she was awesome. She responded that I was like Scientology recruiting people for her.

So yeah, she was one of the most fun guests that I’ve met at a con. Some celebs barely look at you or come off as angry. She was super fun, like the persona that she projects on film and TV.

After we met her we had to do one more lap around the dealers’ tables. Usually I would meet more than one guest at a con but the only other person I was interested in meeting was Alan Ruck and he had to cancel. I had already met Peter Mayhew in June at Philly Wizard World so I didn’t feel the need to bother him again. Before we left we had to get a picture with the Lego Spiderman that was assembled near the entrance.

It was so much better going to the convention center with my man than when I’ve gone alone. I even forgot and then realized that I didn’t need to take a Xanax for my anxiety even though there had to be 400-500 people in the room. Hopefully we will get to attend the next con in 2013 too. It is in April and will feature Kevin Sorbo and Ernie Hudson.

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Style File: The Red Badger

The current IFB Project is Channel Your Inner Superhero so this seems like a good time to talk about the Red Badger.

When I turned 25 I decided to have a costume birthday party. My sister and I actually convinced almost everyone to dress up. It was so much fun.

I created my own superhero called the Red Badger for the occasion. It started when I spotted some really cute red boyshort panties that tied in the back while shopping at a department store. They screamed superhero. At the time I considered underwear a viable outfit choice.

I paired them with one of my favorite bra by Jezebel and some red heels. Then I ran around getting accessories such as fabric (just tied around my neck) as a cape, a red mask, hair dye, red fishnets and a birthday pin. I would have been done but spotted a mustache in Party City and decided that the Red Badger was definitely a transsexual superhero. Everyone loved playing with the mustache including the guys which I found hilarious, since they could grow one.

I had a wardrobe change.
Brian Molko of Placebo in Velvet Goldmine

My sister created her own superhero called the Purple Peacock. She paired a cute tank & dress shorts with fishnets, boots, a purple top hat, feather boa and fancy mask. I do believe that she was heavily influenced by Brian Molko in Velvet Goldmine.

Timmy/his creation

Something incredibly neat was that my friend Timmy made and gifted me with this doll dressed as me.

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Red Badger

 

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Happy Thanksgiving!

I’ve always felt weird about the origins of Thanksgiving since my father’s side of the family is part Indian. Plus I don’t cook. Usually the day goes something like this: my sister and I make some sides, we watch part of a parade or the dog competition while my mom continues making enough food for 400 people even though there are usually only a few of us, we get hungry but can’t eat because it’s not ready so we end up watching that hot dog special that for some reason PBS airs on Thanksgiving, we want hot dogs but don’t eat any (except my dad, who sneaks one) and then we sit down to dinner and everyone stares at me because I won’t say grace. I know it is far from thrilling. (It was also an intentional run on sentence). So instead of worrying about that get your laughs with some clips below, because you know, I love TV.

Watch ThanksKilling on Netflix Streaming. (No, I haven’t watched it but it sounds laughably horrible).