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I will be moving to Orlando, Florida this fall to take part in the Disney College Program. This is an introduction video to give you a bit of an explanation of what this “paid internship” entails. So watch below to hear about how I will be “Living, Learning & Earning” soon. This is also just a good way to see me smiling and happy because I’m not always like that. This is very exciting!

dcp acceptance card missemmamm

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white floral hair clip-The Dollar Tree, NYC Color Expert Last Lip Color in Forever Fuschia-courtesy of Influenster, Sally Hansen Complete Salon Manicure Nail Polish in Pat on the Black-courtesy of Influenster, Barbie necklace-courtesy of CBT’s Closet, SmartHealth Walking FIT pedometer watch-Amazon

Last week I decided to go out and sing some karaoke as I love to do. I don’t do it nearly enough though. I often go with a boob top when going out, to steal a phrase from “Must Love Dogs”. Luckily I had recently bought a fun Nicki Minaj top from Kmart for a great price.

Nicki Minaj Peplum Bra Top -Kmart, Luxury Blues acid wash jeans-Dots

Nicki Minaj Peplum Bra Top -Kmart, Luxury Blues acid wash jeans-Dots

Tyra would hate this no neck shot.

So I built the outfit around that. I added some kick ass 80s throwback jeans from DOTS (RIP) and I had to go with my old Barbie necklace on this one. I mean, it’s the obvious choice. It’s Nicki Minaj for Pete’s sake.

Beau & Ashe Pedal sneakers in Pink-ShoeDazzle

Beau & Ashe Pedal sneakers in Pink-ShoeDazzle

Obviously the lighting on my staircase sucks but I had to have a pic that includes my shoes. That’s just who I am.

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Yeah, you can see my top and necklace in this photo but the main point here is to show you a panic attack. This is my face during a panic attack. Yeah, anticipating hatred by strangers can be scary. Luckily that didn’t happen that night. The fact that there is a 50/50 chance of that happening blows though (I make up my own statistics).

I had a decent, not great time. I sang two songs so I did accomplish that, which was why I went. I sang One Piece at a Time by Johnny Cash and later My Favorite Mistake by Sheryl Crow.

I'm a goofball.

I’m a goofball.

On the way home I took a selfie with this giant Ten Commandments in front a of a local church because I find it ridiculous when sober and hilarious when drunk, atheist up in here. (I know, this is an awful angle for my face, but I don’t care, it’s still makes me chuckle. )

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Style File: Like a dungeon dragon by missemmamm featuring high top shoes

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4 out of 5

Kate Hudson doing yoga

Earlier this year I was checking my email and received an intriguing message from JustFab (a fun shoe subscription service). They were announcing their new site, Fabletics. Fabletics is a monthly service (which you can skip whenever you want) that specializes in athletic wear for women. The face of Fabletics is Kate Hudson, who is of course gorgeous and you can tell does work out.

via Fabletics.com

via Fabletics.com

INITIAL IMPRESSIONS
I read some reviews and it sounded pretty good to me. I also found an amazing (now defunct) coupon that made it possible for me to get a pair of their exercise leggings for $5. They usually sell for $39.99. Yes, I was psyched.

PACKAGING
The leggings came sealed in a plastic bag with the name of the style, color and size on it. This is great just in case you would happen to receive something that you didn’t order by accident. You could return it without opening it first. That bag was packaged in a larger, sturdy shipping bag emblazoned with the name of the company and their website on the front and their logo and “Live Your Passion” on the back.

FABRIC/CLEANING INSTRUCTIONS
I must admit that I am cheap so the original price would not have sucked me in. When I received them though I was quite impressed. They are 90% nylon and 10% spandex. They have that moisture wicking thing going on that you find in well made (expensive) athletic wear. According to Fabletics they feature a “Chafe-Resistant Design, Convenient Hidden Pocket and Four-Way Stretch”. I would say that they haven’t chafed me. The pocket must be extremely well hidden as I haven’t found it. I must also mention that they have detailed, heavy duty stitching at the crotch, which is a great idea because pants often wear out in that area first. According to the Fabletics tag (yes, they are actually manufactured by them, which happily surprised me) they are designed in California and made in the USA (also surprising).

The instructions tell you that they are to be machine washed in cold water with like colors. You can then tumble dry them on low. I have done that at time and other times I’ve just hung them up to dry. I haven’t had a problem either way. You are not supposed to use a softener or bleach on these.

nice stitching on the front of the pants

nice stitching on the front of the pants

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You can see the Fabletics logo on the back.

DESIGN
These are simple but very nice. They feature a wide, flattering band at the top of the pants. According to the site they are supposed to hit mid rise. They don’t really hit me like that but I’ll go into more detail on that later. The back of the waistband features the Fabletics logo. It’s not overwhelming or anything. They are stylish and simple.

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SIZING
This is the tricky part. When ordering a new brand of clothing online it’s difficult to decide what size you actually need. I was a 10-12 when I ordered these. According to the site I should have ordered a large. However I was buying leggings that included spandex and the first few reviews that were up then made it sound like these ran small. So I ordered up to an XL (14-16). I could have ordered the large. There is a fit survey and most customers have now rated them as true to size. I’d agree.

I was able to wear them and probably could have gone with either size at that time. I’ve lost weight since I bought these and am more of a smaller 10 so I’d probably get a medium (8). I’ve totally worn them a lot. A couple of initial sizing issues for me were that the crotch seems a bit long and the pants themselves definitely run long. (I’m only 5’4″.) If you are a tall chick, definitely buy stuff from this company. They are leggings though so it wasn’t a big deal. They just bunch up. Instead of hitting me mid rise they fit more like low rise, but I like that. Plus I just yank them up if I have an issue.

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OVERALL IMPRESSION
Not only are these good for working out but I also wore them during the polar vortex under jeans to stay warmer while outside. They really helped with that. Plus you can wear them with your normal every day outfits if you like. They aren’t perfect but are very awesome. They are lint magnetics so keep a lint roller handy. I’d definitely recommend trying leggings or yoga pants from Fabletics. I’d have a ton of pieces from Fabletics at this point if I could afford it. It’s a really cool idea and a fun way to pick out a new customizable outfit every month.

WANT TO JOIN?
To join Fabletics, click here. (Note: This is an affiliate link. I will receive 500 reward points if you sign up and make a purchase). While I did just get pants and you are free to order single pieces, that’s not the idea behind Fabletics. The idea is to receive a coordinating outfit. If you are a VIP member and do not skip a month you will be charged $49.99. You can then use that towards an outfit (which start at $49.99). There are also individual pieces that go for less.

Note: Yes, I am still using a camera phone.

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My absolute favorite/the only gay bar in my town has theme parties. They usually include performances by some fun drag queens and a drink special. A bit different from the pajama parties I had as a young girl. Well this past January they had a Pajama Party. Of course, I had to go, despite the snow.

In our current world this is probably extremely unusual but I’ve never went anywhere in my pajama pants. I’m not a department store shopper who goes like that. It’s not a slight, it’s just not me. So this was new, for me.

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Wrap Snap N Go Hair Rollers in Leopard Print-borrowed, leopard statement ring-gifted from a friend, Pornormance Tank-JamesDeen.com, pink, fleece cocktail print pajama pants-Dots, Abbey Dawn Rock On Leopard Boots-Just Fab (not pictured), Lulu by Lulu Guinness rain tote print bag-JC Penney (not pictured)

In deciding what to wear I almost immediately decided not to wear a full on two piece pajama set. I guessed that not many would be participating. Plus I wanted to be current and ya know the thing to do these days is a tank & pj pants. That’s what I did, with my spin.

I dug out some old/rarely worn hot pink pjs from the now closing Dots (goddamn I feel old) to pair with my James Deen tank. I was originally gonna include an alternate tank below in the Get the Look section but you probably already own one. Plus if you don’t know who James Deen is, get schooled. The info’s right on this site.

I have thick, curly, dry hair. There isn’t all that much you can do with it. Usually it’s just put a ton of product(s) in it and then leave it down. Not that night though. All of the sudden I thought of putting it up in curlers like people do when they are curling their hair over night. I don’t own any as I don’t need them. So I borrowed these super cute leopard print ones from a family member. Yes, it is supposed to look intentionally messy.

Ah, now there was a theme emerging-hot pink with leopard print accents. I was given a few costume jewelry rings from my sis on Christmas so I found the big leopard one and voila. Yeah, I also wore my Abbey Dawn leopard print boots from JustFab (affiliate link) and my daily Lulu by Lulu Guinness bag (both are no longer for sale). However I’d totally go with the little clutch below, if you’re into clutches. It’s fun.

Then I topped my often makeup free face with a ton of pink makeup. It had the side effect of making me appear younger, a win/win really. It was both over the top and flattering.

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How was my night? Okay. Not many dressed up, as I expected. The friendly bartender thanked me for dressing up. I think a couple of girls said they liked my hair and pants. One guy did show up in a full on red onesie, which rocked! Most of my stories are just me and this one is no exception. I tried to rope a student from school into stopping by but she declined. The show was fun, as always. There was a sad group of people there celebrating a chick’s 21st birthday. While she was very nice, she was also trash drunk. This was a light drinking night for me and I just tried to step out of the way as she fell all over the place. Luckily there were couches, which you know helps when drunk people are falling/climbing all over the place. Also, I was worried she might hurl.

I didn’t stay all that long but hey, I love dressing up & watching the shows so whatever.

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Pink PJ Party
Pink PJ Party by missemmamm featuring pink pants

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Note: Why yes those are camera phone photos. Thank you for noticing. My camera is still MIA or gone.

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Moi, excited to start work at the OG for my first day of orientation. BTW-you can wear slightly more revealing tees as a hostess, which I did.

In late August/early September when I first applied to our local Olive Garden (in operation for less than a year, we are far behind the times in this small town), I wanted to be a server. I had two interviews with nice bosses. The second ended in a “We’ll call you”. According to my online research this is usually a nice brush off from this company.

So I kept up the job search even though I had my heart set on OG. I’m a fan of the food and atmosphere. Plus I was keen on a job involving tips. Not long after that, I had a quick, easy interview/job offer at a fast food place not to far from where I live. That part was ideal even though I’m not huge on working in a fast food environment. I only lasted shortly at a McDonald’s years back.

Or course, while I was waiting for the fast food restaurant to order my uniform I actually received a call from the OG welcoming me to “the family”. I want to say this was about 10 days after the initial interview. I was a bit torn but went with Olive Garden, my dream at the moment (not all of my dreams are big).

My initial worries as a server stem from my health issues, I’m not great with maps (the seating outline) and am incredibly clumsy. However while training I never dropped anything and felt that I was making real headway on learning the table numbers.

Unfortunately there is a 16 page test administered to servers pre-hire. You get about a week to study. This was not enough time for me to memorize most of the menu (which is what’s on it). I did study, hard, I even took online quizzes, however my memory is not the best. As I filled out the test I felt like I knew about half of it, if that. my trainer sadly told me that I’d have to take it again. I asked if I could just be a hostess or busser. I’m not lazy, mind you, but that stuff wasn’t sticking and I was starting school concurrently, which to me, is more important than remembering the entire contents of each dish. I was told to contact another manager later.

When I talked to the manager that hired me she was very nice, even offering to proctor a verbal test, I knew that with my autism (PDD-NOS, Aspergers, high functioning, ASD, whatever you prefer), that would actually turn out worse. She offered me a hostess position with the possibility of trying as a server again in the future.

My hostess trainer was very informative. She was obviously the type of person who gets everything done. I admire that. That is the type of worker that I am. I am not lazy and I never have been. (That’s a fallacy due to my issues with people). I was most worried about interacting with customers but that went quite well for the most part. I could turn on an easy smile and a script, occasionally a compliment and put them at ease.

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Marnie on HBO’s Girls in her hostess uniform. Her job is constantly referred to as a “pretty person job”.

It would seem that all was going well. However not too far into my hostess training I met B (let’s just use her first initial). She was overly bossy and domineering. I had a severe panic attack knowing that I would just be working with her the next morning. I had to go see a doctor and get an excuse for this.

After this I psyched myself up. I got into it. Many of the other hostesses, servers, cooks, etc. are very easy to be around or at least cooperative. There is a difference between trying to get a job done well and barking orders at others. I did not get that impression from the rest of the staff.

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Would you want to work with a Regina from Mean Girls type daily? Yeah, didn’t think so.

In high school (far prior to my diagnosis) I was bullied by girls much like my new, petite 19 year old greeter who caused my quick downfall.

I was on lunch yesterday which turned into dinner, which is fine, more money is great, but what wasn’t fine was my two hour extended panic attack that I tried to hide (yay, I didn’t cry until after I clocked out and left the restaurant for the night). This was due to B coming in and overwhelming me with unnecessary barkingly loud orders. When someone yells at me I go fight or flight (mainly flight).

Looking at the schedule I saw that I’d be working with B again, tonight and tomorrow morning. Suffice to say I was scared shitless. That’s how anxiety works. Everything’s amplified. Between remembering how she barked orders both directly to me and overly loudly over our headsets last night I was very worried about two full shifts with her.

I had to try. I’m tired of letting others step all over me. I went in. Nothing had changed. Yesterday wasn’t just a bad day for her. I asked a couple of coworkers, she’s always like that. At one point she physically pushed past me, needlessly, keep in mind that she’s a size 0/2, she could have easily gotten around me. This is how bullies act. It’s not size, it’s character. I was only there about a half hour, as in that time she actually had me so on edge that I made a stupid mistake (not a biggie) because I couldn’t concentrate. I was berated for that and other mistakes that I didn’t make but had to deal with while seating guests. At one point she did that chilly preppy, Mean Girl stare right into my face and put me down. I apologized. Then I backtracked because this is ridiculous. I muttered “fuck this” to her and went in the beverage area to put away my walkie talkie. At over ten years out of high school I’m no longer letting a preppy teen girl put me down constantly.

I walked out. I knew I’d be fired and I understand the reasoning for that. Nonetheless I needed to call my boss and explain what had happened. He was very nice about it (he’s in customer service, after all). He mentioned strong personalities and different personalities. He also understood how it might bother me because of my past. SO IS IT OKAY FOR AN EMPLOYEE TO BULLY OTHER EMPLOYEES WHO DON’T HAVE MY PAST? I tend to disagree. At one point he let slip that he had mentioned something to B about this type of behavior before. “She’s very serious about her work”. Yeah, lots of people are but they don’t treat ya like scum. Then he said that if he said something to her he’d have to say something to others if something similar happened. Umm, yeah that’s why companies have HR, they even had that in the last retail environment that I worked in (not that I needed it, but it was there). He stated that the restaurant business was rough. I got the feeling that he was trying to say that I wasn’t cut out for it.

Physically, probably not. The other hostesses were mostly bleached blonde, short, thin and very young (about 18-20). I’m taller (though not tall at 5’4″) and curvy. The only thing I had in common was the long blonde hair (though mine is curly). I did try to acclimate though. The official rule book states that long hair should be tied back even for hostesses but these girls had to show off their blowouts. So eventually I started putting a lot of product in my hair to let the curls flow. Plus I started wearing makeup daily to work (I don’t normally do that). I also only wore my contacts as glasses must be pretty unpopular, only one hostess wore them.

But mentally I was doing well aside from her. I loved interacting with the guests. Helping parents seat their children and seeing them get excited over their special menu and crayons (I’m studying childcare, btw). Many people are out to have a good time and are in a good mood. Even if they weren’t though I was very gracious and helpful. I take everything seriously. However I’m not…a bitch. Would you go to high school again for $7.35 an hour? Yeah, I just couldn’t. It broke me the first time.

I feel that the what I took away from this is that Darden condones and in fact nurtures bullying employees. Sad, especially in 2013.

P.S. When referring to Darden I should point out that Darden Restaurants owns Olive Garden, Red Lobster and many other well known restaurants.

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